Blessed pregnancy and delivery

My pregnancy journey came to an end on 21st March and I successfully and safely delivered the twins via the natural way. I must said, this is amazing and I felt truly blessed. Looking back at my pregnancy, I did not have any major issues or discomfort, except for feeling tired during the early trimester, other than that, it was a smooth journey for me throughout. In fact, I was able to drive myself to work till the very last day of leave.

I have heard many twins pregnacy to be diffcult and bed rest are often required towards the end of the trimester. I was also worried that there are complications for the twins which will be costly and of cos traumatic to handle for new parents. Thus, when we heard the loud cry of the babies, it really set our heart at ease and with the assurance of the PD that babies are well, relaxes us immediately.

Well, we have not fully comprehen the roles as parents yet since we still need time to adjust and adapt. Will update soon on how parenthoods changes us. Till then, more night feeding and diaper changing to handle.

Confinement rules are the cauae of poat-natal blue.

Having been thru the labour process and now in the midst of confinement, I can't help but start comparing and see which is worst?? Labour pain are greatly managed with the help of Epidural and that certainly save my life. I can't imagine what it would be like delivering the twins without the painkiller. So, having said the above, the post labour pain is the one that is unbearable. Pain and discomfort starts to developed and no amount of consumable pain killers seem to be working.

As a new mother, Breastfeeding is another challenge, waking up every 2-3 hours to feed and realised that I have insufficent milk to satisfied the hungry babies, this is freaking tiring and discouraging and yes, simply multiply the the above by 2 for twins. On top of the pain, came the rules of confinement. No aircon, no direct wind, no shower unless with the boiled herbal water, no washing of hair for the first week, the foods n red dates tea and lastly no outling for the entire month. I felt suffocated when I sleep in hot environment and I have found myself waking up feeling stress couple of time. Anyway, I really this confinement period will be over soon so that I can fully appreciate parenthoods without having to follow the rules that does not make sense to me.

Maternity leave woes

I actually felt discriminated for being pregnant and taking maternity leave which is my entitlement. Am sure this is a common feeling everywhere, whether we have a male of female boss. I heard comment saying maternity leave is a career limiting move, sure, then don't say you are pro-family when been asked by a female counter-part. There was conflicting message and action around me and this does not make thing any easy for me who is going into Parenthood for the first time.

After much thinking-thru and planning, I thought taking 2 months is a not a bad ideas afterall, at least I can spend more time with my twins when they are older with my remaining two month maternity leave left. However, it was later found out that it will be tough to clear the leave and Cash out option for the leave was offered. I have not taken up the offer, I would rather keep the option open than to be duped aagin into another decision that I will feel uncomfortable with.

For now, I am trying to convince myself that life is such, everyone is selfish and they only think for themselves and I am actually not in such a bad situation. I know my focus will be on the babies when they arrived and I will have no time to be bother with the rest of the issues.

Finally the final stage

I am finally at the final stage of the pregnancy, am into the 9th months and like what everyone and the gynae is saying, it could be anytime from now. The pregnacy has been smooth for me with no morning sickness, good appetite and little discomfort and I am very grateful for the blessing.

What's going to happen in the next few weeks will be the greatest changes in my life and having to handle the two little ones will definitely blown me away. I guess no one will be fully preapred for what is to come, but I will try my best to keep an OPEN mind about things.

For now, I am embracing my special moments with the twins, having them moving inside me and soon this feeling will be histoy, seriously the father will never understand what's the mother go thru...too bad for the men.